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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read an interesting agony letter in the daily mail about older parents being upset that their only DC doesn’t want children. I am surprised by this but feel like I must be missing something. Is having the urge to have grandchildren something as deep and consuming as having own DCs? Is this some sort of innate desire or just an added bonus? My kids are teenagers so I have no desire whatsoever to have grandchildren (yet), but always knew I wanted kids. Also, isn’t it rightfully every adult’s own choice whether to have kids or not? How can the grandparents even expect or demand that their DC go through this life altering experience (that lasts decades, costs millions, is so much work and responsibility), if they don’t want to?[/quote]

I think most of us understand that life's deepest meaning, joy and sorrow come from parenting and we want that for our kids.  Shallow pursuit of materialism and "experiences" will leave our kids with regret when it is too late.[/quote]

I have kids, love them and love parenting, but you can’t generalize like this. People derive meaning from all sorts of paths in life. I suspect Jane Goodall for example views her life as very meaningful and fulfilling.
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There are a lot more people pursuing shallow materialism than spending their lives recording apes.  So yes, I believe my assertion above and think that people who don't have kids (because some people can't) can have meaningful lives, but they are still missing something.  The people who CHOOSE not to have kids, yeah, I think most of their choices are selfish.[/quote]

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