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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the big problem, right? Men think they are there to "help" and need to be delegated to. It's infuriating when they play stupid. [/quote]

I think today it crystallized for me that when he gets upset and says I’m not communicating it means “unless you have told me exactly what to do and when to do it I am free to do assume you will handle everything because you are here”. And it’s making more upset than just this morning really justifies. If I say I am making an appointment at this date and time can you take DD he will do it. But when he says he will make an appointment….it never happens. And if I complain that our child’s physical that he said he would schedule is 3 months overdue “he’s been too busy”. I guess it’s my fault for not saying “please make the appointment when it is due?” I don’t even know. It really is the difference between having a partner vs having an employee you can give specific tasks to. It sucks. [/quote]

OP, it's clear that there is more going on than just what happened this morning. So even if you did overreact this morning (and you even admitted that you weren't particularly clear when you spoke to him), I can see how this was the straw that broke the camel's back if you've been living with this for years.

Have you tried talking to him about it in a way that tells him how it makes you feel? So not, I wish you would do XYZ, but when you do XYZ it makes me feel ABC. [/quote]

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