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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recently realized that my 13 year-old daughter started comparing herself to me in terms of beauty, attractiveness, femininity.

So I can no longer be simply the cuddly "mama bear", but I feel like I need to become a more attractive woman myself in order for her to feel proud of me.

By the way, I think that her new approach is completely normal, so I don't mean this as a criticism.

I must confess that I am no longer as attractive/thin/put-together as before her birth, and I need to put in more effort. (I went from a size 2 to currently a size 10/12).

I remember back as a teen I considered my mom to be fat, ugly, unattractive, and I think she was all that. But I don't want to be.

Somehow most of the moms at my daughter's school seem to be older than me, so this issue hasn't occurred to me. But recently at an event I saw a girl my daughter's age with an attractive mother, and I wished I were that mom.

Did you have similar [b]insights [/b]when your daughters reached their teenage years?

Thanks in advance.[/quote]

You say "insights," I say "disordered thinking," OP.

Seriously, you are saying that you need to be attractive for your daughter to be proud of you.  Does she need to be attractive for you to be proud of her?  DO you want her to feel that way about the men (or women) she is romantically involved with?  [/quote]

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