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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]My father did, my mom did all his executive functioning, and did the same for us kids. My mom is so used to it she likely thinks (but doesn’t say) that this is just normal, and I’m making a bigger deal out of it than necessary- because I’m a successful adult.

I’m also a woman, so when I was a girl in the 80s/90s, ADHD was boys who couldn’t sit still in class and ddi poorly on tests, I was a chatterbox, who couldn’t make friends with kids my own age, could spend hours reading, and did very well in school, but only when I liked the subject. [/quote]

This is my sister and our family almost to a tee - except she has never managed to successfully “adult.” So interesting to hear others’ experiences.[/quote]

The parents HAVE to take away the scaffolding during the middle school and high school years for the exec functioning skills to be habitualized in the teen.

Mom cannot and should not continue to do everything - chores, reminders, homework, packing, tidying - for the kid or else they will never learn good habits and systems.

Take away the scaffolding bit by bit.

As for the husband who can’t do jack, he’s a lot cause. Mak sure he stays on the sidelines, that reduces the chaos. [/quote]

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