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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have twins, but as an outsider just wanted to express confidence in you and your kids to navigate this. You have a lifetime of practice, right? One twin gets invited to bday party and the other doesn’t. One makes their travel team and one gets cut. One has a date every weekend and the other has never been kissed. You and your kids handle it with love for each other and value for each other regardless of achievement, and you’ll do it this time, too.[/quote]

This 1000%.  I'm certain they have had to navigate this over the years.  I get that it's a bit different with twins, but many siblings experience this.

I'm the younger sibling and I actually am thankful that it's that way.  I'm the "smarter"/more successful sibling all the way thru school.  I was top of my class, 4.0 UW in HS, valedictorian, class president, All State 1st chair on my instrument for 4 years, top of class for everything STEM, etc.  Meanwhile sibling graduated in top 15% of class, not involved in many activities in HS, went to college and did okay.  
I was were I landed because of my drive and willingness to do more...my sibling was not dumb, but chose to do the minimum and coast thru.  Those choices mean different paths in life.  I had my pick of schools, many with excellent merit. They did not have as many choices.

If it was reversed I would have hated being the younger sibling (only 2 years) and having teachers compare me to the older more successful.  As it was I got used to teachers saying, "oh you are so different than your sibling" Yeah no shit, we are different people and you should not be saying that to a student.  
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