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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your comfort level matters too.  3 parties need to agree it's time for you to meet- YOU, your partner, and the teenage kids (notice BM doesn't factor in here, because she doesn't).  If you're not comfortable yet, that's ok and you should tell him you're not ready to meet them yet.  End of story.  "Too soon" doesn't matter.  If he's not willing to respect that boundary, he's not the person for you. Boundaries are VERY important going into step parenting.[/quote]

I agree w all of the above except the idea that BM doesn’t matter. She has a right to an opinion here. If we are looking at a long term picture of step parenting children, discounting her isn’t smart.[/quote]

BM absolutely does not have a right to an opinion here. Even if something was written into the agreement about "introducing new partners" BM's opinion on whether or not you meet the kids now is irrelevant.  If it's required for dad to tell her after a certain period of time that's one thing, but he is in no way required to listen to or factor in her opinion on the matter.  [/quote]

If he’s breaking an agreement she has the right to know, [/quote]

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