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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, OP,

It falls on the parents. My son was born premature with global development delay, then was diagnosed with ADHD and autism, and a host of other things, like dyscalculia, low processing speed, motor delay, etc. He had years of speech therapy, OT and PT.

... And I worked with him every day after school to reteach. I taught him to read. We read a TON. We brought him to museums, narrated his day, explained what everyone was likely thinking and how that was influencing what they were doing (in real life and in books), insisted on math fluency (which his dyscalculia, that was a significant achievement). We taught him hand-over-hand how to write, how to tie his shoelaces, how to swim, how to ride a bike. That kid worked 10 times harder than any other kid I know.

The greatest gift you can give this kid is telling her family that they need to spend time with her after school to do these things. They might take it the wrong way, especially if they have no understanding of early intervention can do. YOU can only scratch the surface - you're responsible for so many kids! These days it's normal for doctor and IEP teams to lower the bar for students with special needs. I was told my son would be extremely delayed in walking and talking and might not ever make it to general ed. It sends the wrong message to their parents, who think there's nothing to be done. I think the reality is that we live in a society were it's not considered healthy for kids to receive intense academic support. "If they're dumb, they're dumb."

My "dumb" kid is a freshman in college now, with merit aid because of his multiple AP courses and 35 on his ACT. 
 
But this is on the parents. No one else has that kind of time.[/quote]

Eyeroll. You didn’t make your kid into the smart kid that he is. IQ was never going to be an issue for your kid. Stop being smug and telling yourself and others that IF ONLY they worked hard and loved their kids as much as you then their SN would get better. I’m happy your kid is doing so great. He likely would have done well even without all the therapies.

They told me my kid would never walk or talk but he did. Not because I worked harder than other parents but because his condition is rare and not well understood. He has a genetic disorder with only 300 or so cases. 299/300 don’t walk or talk but my son does. A geneticist told us he might have some kind of a modifier gene that helps counteract the effects of the disorder. It’s not because we did more for our kid than other parents of kids with this same disorder. My god, PP. You really are out of line. [/quote]

Er… you’re taking things the wrong way. The point is never to give up on your kid. You maximize whatever potential they have. Very sadly, I see parents give up because society tells them they shouldn’t push their kids. And then, these kids don’t do as well as they could have done, or in some cases, fail entirely and have no future. I’ve been around the block and witnessed multiple cases. This when years of intense therapies and tutoring could have ensured more rosy economic options for them.

Please don’t diminish other families’ challenges and efforts. It makes you look inexperienced.

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I’m a different poster, and you may not realize but your post was incredibly tone deaf. You are inexperienced about situations with low IQ given what you wrote in your post. I’m happy for your family that you “didn’t give up” on your kid and it worked. I haven’t given up on my kid either. But with an IQ of about 25, I’m certainly not going to have the experience you had. And at least 10 therapists/doctors told me “she will catch up” until age 5. And then, I pushed to get more expertise, for a genetic diagnosis and realized that the 100s of thousands I had spent on various therapies was actually a waste. I should have kept that money for the 24/7 care she requires. That said, I would never discourage someone from pushing in therapy if they can afford it and can find the time. But your sense of self righteousness about your path is off putting at best.[/quote]
This is a great example of how the question of "will a kid catch up" is all about learning what's going on with the kid.[/quote]

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