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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder about these confident posters who do not doubt themselves. Are you like this in general? Do you find most people would agree with that assessment? What were your parents like?
I'm a little jealous and want to know what it's like not to second guess
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Most of these people probably suck at parenting, and personing in general, because they don't spend a whole lot of effort to self-analyze, which makes it hard to self-correct. [/quote]

There is a different in being self-reflective and having negative thought spirals or catastrophic thinking (making one mistake as a parent and going to I'm a bad mom place is a little catastrophic, I'm prone to this for other things but I guess not parenting!). I'm a new pp but I was a bit surprised to see all the answers here. I question myself, go back and forth on decisions for my kids, its not like I'm constantly confident in every decision I make for my kids. Definitely not. But it isn't often that I really think I am a bad mom. As I weigh all these decisions, I know deep down I'm a good mom, a great mom even. My kids are loved, nurtured, listened to. They have family dinners regularly, fun activities, friendships we nurture, a safe home. We have fun together as a family. Sometimes my husband and I will bicker like we did this morning and I'll think ugh that isn't great to do in front of the kids and resolve to do better if i can (and usually fail), but I don't go to the depths of "I'm a bad mom." I don't think I'm overly confident across the board, more just try to keep my thoughts to a helpful place when I can. I'll literally say to myself out loud sometimes "I can handle this, I've handled it before and I can handle it again' when I'm at the end of my rope. Sometimes the rope just breaks and I lose it, but it does help sometimes. What we say to ourselves really makes a big difference in how we feel.

So many of the moms posting must be great moms, it really makes me sad to think of everyone thinking they are a bad mom so often. Sending great mom vibes or something to everyone because this is definitely hard work and most are doing a pretty great job.[/quote]

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