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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not in my [UMC, DMV, mostly dual income family] circle. Recently a slightly younger friend announced they are having a third and while I am happy for them, as they seem excited, privately I was shocked. I cannot imagine having 3 kids and living the life we currently live, which I think is great.[/quote]

Should have said: most families we know have 2 kids. Way more only children in our circle than I knew growing up in a similar community. Definitely seems like a trend towards more onlies -- I think there is less stigma to doing this now. People don't always assume it's due to secondary infertility or marital problems (30 years ago everyone would have assumed that was it) and it's become more acceptable to say you're one and done by choice. To me, that's the big shift, not more 3+ families.[/quote]

The kids who I know who are onlies have older parents who got married later and had a kid later. I don’t see people getting married at 30 and only having 1. It could just be that if you get married later you value your personal time more and don’t want more than one or that you don’t want to risk complications that come with being older if you get lucky and have a healthy baby. I would never assume an unhappy marriage was why someone only had one child or that infertility was involved. Even when I see big spaces between kids I don’t assume infertility. My default assumption in that case is that they wanted a larger gap between kids.[/quote]

Same. Another scenario is a second marriage for the husband who has grown kids and compromised on having just one more with the new, younger wife.[/quote]

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