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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are your kids friends with each other? Do they see each other often? I ask because I married into a family like the functional ones on your trip you are jealous of and my husband and his siblings are genuinely friends and also live far apart.  They enjoy spending time together and together with their parents. I wish I knew what the magic formula is to make that happen, but I’m an only child with parents who bicker all the time. I stopped inviting my parents on trips with my husband’s family because I am constantly making excuses for them and managing my mom’s jealousy over how much fun and how easy and comfortable his family is and how I’m part of that now. [/quote]

[b]It sounded like the 3 families have all known each other for many years and vacationed together in childhood. [/b]

Now they all went on a ski trip with SOs and OPs adult kids kept No Showing at things.

Just ask them in a week or so individually what was going on there.

Maybe all the adult children have taken different paths in college or afterwards and it’s better to just meet up at a local BBQ than a weekend trip. I dunno.

My family grew up traveling with cousins or family friends and now we’ve all stood up in each others weddings, are each others kids god parents and see each other 1-2 times a year when in town visiting our folks. All different jobs, incomes but same values. Now we’re attending each others parents funerals (75-80 yos) and supporting each other that way. We “kids have now known each other since birth, or 45 years. Like a distant sibling. Tons of shared memories. [/quote]

No it doesn't sound like this at all. If they were "vacation together" close as kids, OP would have mentioned it.  The way OP described it, the kids have been "friends" for a long time in the sense that they were in each others' periodic orbit as kids, solely because the parents were friends.  But none of the kids were friends in the way you describe, like best man in the wedding style.

OP have your kids ever directly contacted, texted, or phoned these kids in their entire lives?  Have your kids ever socialized with any of these kids once in their entire lives (other than because the parents were socializing and brought all the kids)?

If OP answers that question the way I think she will, then hopefully it will shut down all the comments suggesting that it's normal for adult children to vacation together.  Because i think the commenters are falling into two different buckets: Those who think the kids are truly friends, vs those who think the kids are 'friends' solely by virtue of the parent relationships.  [/quote]

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