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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The OP did say the adult kids have known each other and are friends.  This is probably a family friend child situation from childhood pushed out to adult children.  Still though many times those friendships are like cousins.  A bit forced and sometimes they click genuinely and sometimes not.

But to answer your question OP yes I’ve been on a group vacation and felt bad about my family and I didn’t go with those people again.[/quote]

OP here yes kind of like that. Known each other a long time, have grown into different people. I will admit my kids are not the easy going type, they have strong opinions and can even be judgmental at times. I guess in light of seeing the interactions of the other two families, it made me feel like mine was just not jiving and going along with things easily. I mean for 4 days, they could have been a little more flexible (my kids) and did it for us? I don't know maybe my expectations are too high given that they are now adults

Bottom line I probably won't do that again. Might work for some but not for others. Vacations are meant to relax and rejuvenate not leave even more stressed then when you arrive![/quote]

My answer still stands that it is bizarre to do a "families" vacation with grown adult children.

The equivalent would be if OP's children planned a vacation where they each brought a friend whom they've known since childhood, and the friend brought their parents. But while OP 'knows' the parents from having seen them at PTA meetings or sports events 10+ years ago, the OP has never been direct friends with these other parents and would never in 25 years have made an effort to see these other parents directly.

Does that sound like a fun vacation to OP? If you're OP, do you want to have to spend all of your time on that vacation hanging out with your kids' friends and their parents who you 'know' but aren't friends with?

I can't believe people think this is normal. [/quote]

I think you re the one with the issue. I know plenty of people who do this, both American and from other countries, its more common than you think.[/quote]

When you aren't trying to marry the kids off to each other? 
When the children aren't socially developmentally delayed and lacking any of their ownr friends? [/quote]

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