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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do you enjoy vacations with just your own family/kids at this point?[/quote]

I do though they don't happen much anymore since they are all adults. I was thinking maybe we should try a family vacation just our family to see how it goes. My husband likes the idea a lot. My kids are very independent and I realized in looking at those other adult kids, they seem to be much more dependent on the parents and very compliant. Whatever the parents said is pretty much what they did. I guess I am just not used to that.[/quote]

Yes, it just sounds like your family dynamics and personalities are different from the others on the trip. Not wrong or bad, just you guys were the odd ones out.

Consider this: what if the other adult kids on the trip had been like your kids -- skipping some group meals and doing their own thing some of the time, choosing to go on their own rather than hanging out with you and your friends? Would the trip have been terrible? I'm guessing no, just different. The older generation would have had more time to hang out together (which makes sense since you all are friends) and the younger generation would have been more independent and done their own thing more. It sounds fine.

The only problem here is that you vacationed with multiple families who had a specific dynamic and your family has a different dynamic. It doesn't make your family wrong. No one is wrong. It's just a different vibe.

Vacationing with other people is hard and this is why many of us are wary of it generally -- we rarely vacation with other families because you always risk this issue and I don't want to go to a lot of trouble and expense to have a vacation that winds up not being fun or relaxing because it's not a good fit.[/quote]

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