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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry to hear this.
I could not find the book (I read so many that were useless) but read one by a foster parent who had had multiple aggressive children.  One thing I learned from that is that when aggressive that kindness and empathy work well - when my son is out of control saying "I love you so much" (not praising the behavior, just stating a true fact) never triggers and can help.

That's not really your problem, but hopefully a helpful thing I wish it hadn't taken years to figure out.  It also helps me handle my own fear.

The other PP who talked about being proactive has great tips.  Definitely thinking about how to minimize challenges when things go wrong.  Are there alternates to carrying a child?  Definitely minimizing stairs is a good start. Getting rid of breakable things or keeping childproof locks on many cabinets is a good idea.

In terms of locking your child in, that may not be allowed, but what is definitely allowed is locking yourself in without your child.  If your house is childproofed, you can secure yourself (and other family members) in a safe room and stay safe that way.  I hope that makes sense. You could even have a whole suite or even a floor lockable for safety.  This is probably a better long term strategy.  Also, moving yourself instead of your child will also reduce the risk of injury.  You will have to deal with the fact that there may be material destruction, but things are possible to replace.  This *doesn't* make it ok, *at all* but it is just ever so slightly less bad.

And lastly, I am sorry you are feeling so alone. My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry there has been such a bad day of late.  I have had days that felt unbearable, and I wouldn't wish them on anyone, and I will be thinking about you and hoping things can get better for you.[/quote]

This is a different kind of violence. Foster kids are a different story. [/quote]

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