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[quote=Anonymous]Is this a weird form of humble bragging, OP?
It seems that not doing anything (or not much) as parents is more for your own reassurance that you're fulfilling your own idea of a good parent than your kids' actual desires or needs.
The college landscape today is so, so different than 20 years ago. There are few students out there who are organized and ambitious and resourceful enough to prepare for college applications without guidance from their parents.
You have to know your own kids. I have one child who has ambitions in a musical field, and there is no way that he could have applied to schools without our assistance. Between the lessons, auditions, recordings, performances, etc., I do not see how any child could succeed in the arts without substantial parental assistance. I think this is also true for kids who want to play sports in college or require any sort of artistic portfolio - if your child wants to succeed, parents need to help.
Maybe your kid doesn't have such ambitions, but even figuring out which colleges might be appropriate for their strengths and understanding the complex financial landscape of college requires parental involvement. If your child is in a public school, you should not expect any help from the school's college counselor.
Do your kids a favor and help them to realize their potential. That doesn't mean pushing them for Ivy or top-20 admissions, but it does mean working with them to explore colleges, understand finances, and consider various courses of study.
If you actually have the resources to help your child in a constructive way, why in the world would you not help your child to appreciate the opportunities are available to hem?[/quote]

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