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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So for most of the days of 2023, I had exactly one drink every night: either a glass of wine or a hard cider. My husband told me as my new years resolution I should give up alcohol because he thought I was “becoming an alcoholic.” That startled me because it never occurred to me that one drink a day would be considered being an alcoholic, so I have not had any alcohol since January 1 to prove to him I don’t need it. I am going out with a girlfriend this week who I have not seen in months and I asked him if he thinks it would be OK for me to have a glass of wine or am I going back to my “alcoholism” kind of in jest honestly. He said he thinks I should continue dry January or he’ll continue to be concerned about my alcohol consumption.
I want to respect his concerns, and I also want to show him that I do not need alcohol in my life as I am not dependent on it. How would you respond to your husband in the situation? Thanks.  [/quote]

If you're already thinking about your next drink, you may be more attached to alcohol than you think. Why do you need to drink with your friend? Why was your approach to the conversation snarky "jest" instead of honest communication?

Yes to all the other posters raising red flags about your husband perhaps being controlling af, but let's separate that out for a second and stay on OP's topic.

OP, if you can't go 30 days w/o thinking this much about when you're gonna drink next, you may have an alcohol use issue. If you're not dependent on it and don't need it to socialize, you wouldn't have asked, you'd have had a mocktail with your friend and moved on about your business.

A LOT of people have an alcohol use issue. You probably won't get great advice here; alcoholics don't tend to want others to quit because it invites us to look at our own alcohol use and that can be unpleasant.

-sober 6+ years[/quote]

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