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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"DD has experienced no abandonment in her life ..."

"Her mother was similar, which is one reason we finally divorced, and while she chose to live with me in MS and HS, the Deja vu of walking on eggshells "

I think you are interpreting abandonment too narrowly, and I'm not just referring to the divorce.[/quote]

One hundred percent. [b]This kid experienced capital-T Trauma and it is not mysterious that she is having this kind of struggle.[/b]

That said, borderline personality is not *caused* by abandonment. People with borderline personality disorder are highly sensitized to abandonment, and they often perceive it where it isn’t intended and/or where others would not. But this only makes your comment more of a non sequitur, OP.

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No. You are totally wrong. Tons of people have divorced parents. Most of them don’t end up with personality disorders. [/quote]

She lived with a highly symptomatic mentally ill parent. That is an adverse childhood experience, and ACEs are associated with this kind of outcome. Divorce is also an adverse childhood experience (though of course it’s sometimes necessary).

There is a cumulative effect from ACEs and a protective effect from some things this person doesn’t seem to have experienced. [/quote]

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