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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t find this believable.  99% of teen boys aren’t going up to girls of any age they don’t know and asking for numbers.  They can barely hold an in person conversation with anyone.m[/quote]

I have an 18 boy and a 13 year old girl and I've observed this. No one is pestering anyone for their number. The teens who pair up just gravitate naturally together in school (or their after school activities), and are friends. Everyone is rather shy about dating. Few teens are dating, even fewer are sexually active. This teen generation is less sexually active than previous ones.

I've noticed on DCUM that there's this image of predatory, harassing boys and innocent girls. I think that is largely in the minds of their mothers, who had unpleasant experiences at the same age with a few males, and now imagine that every male is out to prey on their daughters. From what I was able to observe of boys in my son's high school and activities, they are humans who sometimes talk. So if another boy or girl is there, not giving off "I hate you" vibes, they may strike up a conversation, especially if they think the other kid is their age. This in no way indicates they want to date. Even if a boy asks a girl for contact info, it doesn't necessarily mean the text chain or hang-out will turn out romantic. Kids want friends first, dates a distant second. I also think "boys checking out girls" sometimes misses the fact that people look at people, but worried parents get a lot more worried when the girl in question has curves, because they think that's all the boys are looking at. Looks can be perfectly innocent.

That being said, I totally understand that *some* men and boys will get overly attentive with young curvy girls. I'm sorry this is happening to your daughter, OP. She can say she's not interested, that's all. In my daughter's middle school, a few girls are very interested in dating, the rest are not. I know a few girls who *aggressively* pursue boys they like, so again, it's not one gender doing this to the other, it's some kids who are more interested than others.

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