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[quote=Anonymous]OP I am so sorry for what you must be feeling, especially if you once upon a time really, really loved your husband (I just mean that some marriages are more grounded in the romantic and others less so).

This kind of thing makes me grateful I never married because it is exactly the kind of thing I felt sure I could never, ever tolerate in a marriage and which would really devastate me. My parents were both adulterers and I heard details from my mother about the pain she endured and it was something that made me marriage averse at some base level. Rather be safe and lonely than open to such devastation.

You should do whatever you need to do to figure out the path forward. Make him sleep in the guest room. Get counseling for yourself to figure out what YOU most need going forward. Do not feel guilty if you cannot ever trust him again and need to end the marriage - you did nothing wrong, this is ALL on him, whatever consequences come. He made it happen.

Sorry, again.

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