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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can see why he's sad. That schedule would make me sad too. Can you move the double shift to one weekday so the whole family can spend Saturday together? That's what I would do. I work PT too but it's all during the weekdays.[/quote]

Op here. Not possible right now. The FT person works 8-4 pm Monday - Friday. I think during the holidays it's been hard because they don't have activities. On both Saturday and Sunday, they have an activity..not soccer or anything like that which I would attend. I am off Friday and Sunday evenings starting from 4pm..i may get a nanny cam so I can interact with them from my phone when they are watching TV..I know they watch a lot of TV when I am away. I take them out more than dh so I think they like that [/quote]

Can I ask why you're doing this?  If you can't afford quality childcare, that's understandable, and you need to be honest with your kid.
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I posted earlier in the thread that I work Friday evenings.  I do this for a couple of reasons.  First of all, I get paid more.  Secondly, that shift is available.  Third, working 8-4 means that I can neither get my kids off to school nor pick them up, so I would have to hire someone to do that.  
Fourth, I think it’s good for DH to have solo time with the kids.  When I worked during school, he was never alone with the kids.

I don’t work on a school night because DH wouldn’t have the kids do homework, and he is hit or miss about remembering to take them to their activities.

I don’t think her schedule is terrible.  I do agree with another poster that OP needs a babysitter for a few hours and a scheduled activity for the oldest on Saturdays.  
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Op here. Both kids have scheduled activities on both days. The youngest is 3 and they go to the gym childcare on Saturday so dh can work out. They like it and the older one goes to dodgeball half of the time at the gym childcare. On Sunday during the day the youngest goes to a trampoline place and the oldest has a scheduled activity for a few hours. I take the oldest to another activity twice a week in the evenings. The youngest also is in preschool for 3 hours a few days a week. [/quote]

So, their “scheduled activities” on weekends are going to glorified daycare? If you are home during the workweek why doesn’t your husband workout then? Then maybe your kids can do an actual kid activity on the weekends. I see why your oldest is feeling neglected.

Also, this schedule has got to be hell for your marriage. [/quote]

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You sound judgmental. It works for them. Some kids like gym childcare. They play with different toys, meet different friends and some take the older kids out to do sports. [/quote]

The oldest is 7, Dad should workout one of the 5 days mom isn’t working so Dad can spend time with the kid or at least take him to a real activity for the kid.

And no, it’s not working for them, the kid is unhappy, which is why OP posted.[/quote]

I think the gym childcare is a fantastic option, especially considering their dad sometimes loses his cool. Being at home all day with 2 young kids is tough. Most dads couldn't handle it without a babysitter or something like that. Scheduling two different kids in activities all day could be problematic. For most activities for 4 year olds, the parents have to stay. [/quote]

So the dad gets them out both days of the weekend, and it's still not considered a real activity. Yeah no. OP said the 7-year-old has an activity for several hours on Sunday and goes to the gym childcare (probably Lifetime or YMCA) on Saturday. The dad also takes the younger one to a trampoline place every Sunday while the older kid has soccer or whatever activity that takes a few hours.

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First-world problems. Kids have several memberships and do activities. You realize not all families can afford this right?

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