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[quote=Anonymous]So many responses here are DCUM at its worst:  don't acknowledge anyone's feelings, don't discuss your own feelings, always assume the worst in others, don't think about creative solutions -- just be your most self-centered and reptilian self.  How pathetic.

OP, this is a great opportunity to have an honest conversation with your kids about why you and your husband want to make this move and about their own feelings.  That doesn't have to be about guilt.  Instead,  as a family you can talk about ways to capture memories of the house through art, photos, videos or whatever brings you all a sense of gratitude for the time you spent together in your home.  You can plan to invite old friends for a house farewell or a housewarming in your new place -- you're only moving an hour away.  Finally, you can allow your kids to select a few items they'd like to save from your home.  Even if they don't currently have a place to put those things, you can offer to store them.  I have two paintings from the house where I grew up and where my parents lived for 40 years.  Those paintings will come with DH and me when we downsize -- within the next 5 years -- because they carry with them wonderful memories.  If our kids choose to take a few items from our home, I'll consider that as a sign we accomplished what we set out to do when we bought our house in 1999 -- make it a home where we could raise our children with love.     [/quote]

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