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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of people use boundaries to mean "I should never have to do, or see, or hear, anything I don't like.  If people don't act the way I want them to all the time, it's not merely part of life or annoying, it's offensive or toxic.  Relationships should require no work or compromise on my part, and even asking me something i dont want to do or share is wrong and hurtful"  There are people who genuinely need to set boundaries for themselves so that they don't do too much or accept mistreatment, but the term has been stripped of any useful meaning by overuse and misuse.   [/quote]

Yep. And there's a difference between a healthy boundary and an ultimatum.

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Well to pushy people a boundary ends up being an ultimatum. It’s the other person calmly telling you that they aren’t going to engage or participate in whatever behavior you are trying to get them to engage in with you. Your options are to either stop and or find someone else to play the way you want.

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