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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks for the chance to clarify.  I don't hate kids, but I don't think they're fun or cute.  I am an introvert (even as a kid, I preferred imagination games by myself rather than with others) and need a lot of quiet time.  The best example I can give is that I love sitting quietly with my dog, but I don't like to play fetch or wrestle with her: my husband plays with her and talks to her, and I schedule the vet appointments and research the best kibble.  [/quote]

A kid needs to interact, they aren't just going to sit quietly. You need to be responsive and happy or it will really mess them up. It sounds like a need for control more than just introversion to me OP. What was your family like? Have you had issues with depression or anxiety? You remind me of a friend who has both. Motherhood has been a real struggle and her kids are anxious and needy. She is not good at feelings, either theirs or hers, nor is her husband.

No offense, OP, but can you imagine being the kind of mom a kid would pick to have a happy childhood? The dog example really says a lot about your level of emotional intimacy and how playful you are. If you like a controlled orderly life without many people in it, then you are not likely to find yourself loving motherhood, revelling in sleepovers and birthday parties and playdates. Some introverts have a tight inner circle, sounds like you do not and have always been that way. How you need to live is not in line with what kids need to feel happy. [/quote]

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