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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pointless story incoming….

My older DD (now a freshman in HS) had a girl like this in her class in elementary. Same exact story- always making snarky remarks and criticizing the other girls- often about appearance. Didn’t seem to be target at anyone in particular- just a sour, difficult girl.

This continued into MS (large suburban public but their cohort from elementary was together more due to a language immersion track). All of the other girls tolerated this girl at school,  who kind of kept hanging around (probably bc she had no other friends). Some learned to snap back at the girl’s rude comments (as if you are one to talk, Larla! etc) They certainly didn’t hang out with her outside of school but didn’t deliberately leave her out either (at MS age everyone is not always included in everything).

Anyway- DD has said the girl is very nice now in HS. I’ve noticed the girl has even been included in some mutual group outings etc. and seems to have some friends now.

I think the girl was just insecure and having a rough time earlier….In hindsight I’m glad no one ever went nuclear and did anything deliberately nasty to the girl (like exclude her and only her from an elementary school party)- why sink to such a level? Not worth it and will seem very silly a few years from now.

I might feel differently if the girl was doing something truly truly horrid- but at this point it is snarky comments and throwing someone’s eraser away. Teach your DD to do the right thing. They don’t have to be friends but to exclude only one girl isn’t right, [b]and teaches a poor lesson.[/b] [/quote]

DP 
I agree with all of this.
I would add to the bolded that ‘it teaches a poor lesson’ to YOUR daughter.  . . . not the child you think is getting the lesson.[/quote]

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