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Reply to "Who comes first: your family of origin or your spouse?"
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[quote=Anonymous]Spouse, always. Always. If you have a functional family of origin, the right spouse will support you in supporting them, so they shouldn't be in conflict. A functional family of origin will not ask you to prioritize them over your spouse, children, or self, anyway. But if they have needs or need support, a functional spouse will help with that. If you come from a dysfunctional family of origin (I do) who often demand that you prioritize them over your spouse, your kids, your job, your own mental well being? Then your spouse can be your best support in standing up to them and also providing you with a safe place to land when they try to punish you for not bending to their will. But spouse is the partner either way. They can help you help your family, and they can help you stand up to your family. They must come first and you have to protect that bond.[/quote]
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