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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was raped and otherwise sexually abused by my husband when awake and when in my sleep.

The police pressed charges. Write down what happened, no need to justify why you didn't want to.

My ex was deeply disturbed in many ways. The trauma of this all did a real number on me. But I've been divorced 7 years and the courts did not allow him any contact with the kids.

A sexual assault center therapist might be a good choice.[/quote]

I want to add that mine also said he "didn't remember" and when I would wake up in terror he would roll over and pretend to be asleep. Sleep assaulting? Not joking. I wanted to believe him because that was easier.

He showed remorse, he quit drinking, we separated awhile, he did it again.

His past was deeply disturbed and it was definitely not the first time he raped someone he was in a relationship with. Hearing about his past traumatized me.

The sexual assault therapists taught me "is he taking responsibility for what he did."

Sometimes he did for a month. But never truly. He always resented me. When he went to a therapist he thought she wanted to have sex with him. He thought him going to a therapist was enough and would instantly mean I would want to have sex with him. He could never understand the depth of hurt his choices caused me.[/quote]

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