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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, OP.  That hurts, I know.  Sending you a big hug and hoping your new year is filled with deep friendships and love. [/quote]

I got ghosted by a friend this year, too, unexpectedly, and it still makes me sad.  Focusing on other friendships has helped a ton.  Hang in there.[/quote]

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I’ve had this happen with 3 friends over the last 20 years. The first one was pre-iPhone so I didn’t text but called her weekly leaving messages. I let her know I missed her and to please let me know if I had done something wrong. Crickets. It hurt deeply as she was a very close friend at the time. We saw each other several times a month with our babies and had long phone calls multiple times a week.  I spent too much time pursuing it and felt stupid and stalkerish in the end. Years later I determined it had zero to do with me. The 2nd time was with someone I had been friends with for 20 years and she was the mom of my son’s best friend. She did the slow fade which in some ways was more difficult because i was getting mixed messages.  She would reply she was checking her schedule and then never get back to me. If she did, she’d give me a date and then cancel. The fact she occasionally responded made me feel like she was interested but I finally got the message. I stopped texting and haven’t heard from her in 2 years though oddly enough she comments on my FB posts to this day. The last one I dealt with better. We’d been friends a few years but COVID in 2020 canceled our last set of plans. She stopped texting and just to be sure she wasn’t experiencing a personal crisis I reached out but then let it go. I was proud of myself for moving on but I have to say it still hurts whenever I think of these friendships ending with no closure. [/quote]

I feel sort of proud of you too, PP, for letting it go.
I also feel like three friends ghosting me—even over a period of twenty years—would have me doing a lot of re-evaluation of my own interactions. Is this really a thing that happens three separate times? [/quote]

NP. You began your post so kindly snd then, perhaps due to your own fears or anxieties, attempted to blame the PP. Way to go.[/quote]

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