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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Rigidity of any kind (“stubborn streak”), nitpicking tendencies, unhappy childhood, lack of empathy, need to one up everyone, seeing compromising as “bending to someone’s will”, enmeshment issues with family of origin, being overly thrifty. [b]Any kind of anxiety[/b]. Any kind of self-destructive behavior. Any kind of critical worldview (even self-directed critisism). These are huge red flags. Even if the trait is benign/mild pre-kids, it will amplify 100x with the stress of small children and can make you and kids miserable. A good boyfriend, travel mate, roommate can be a total nightmare as a partner.

Look for someone easy going, responsible and flexible, for whom having kids is very valuable and who is ok with the partner being in charge during initial infant stages. [/quote]

Sometimes anxiety makes people BETTER. This is not a red flag. My DH has anxiety a d it made him take parenting classes and implement his learnings. He passed his anxiety on to our kids (it's genetic) and we produced 2 perfect straight A students who really are role models.  Don't get me wrong perfectionism/anxiety comes with challenges, but often it produces BETTER results.[/quote]

So, you welcome your kid’s mental illness because it improved their GPA???

Pretty messed up priorities there![/quote]

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