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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=lmaple][quote=Anonymous]Journalism is never going to pay well. 
If she wants cash she needs to go into consulting, they love college level athletes with science and engineering degrees, and get a network of people that can give her a job after 2-5 years if she doesn’t like working that hard long term. [/quote]

OP here. I encouraged her to go into consulting but she refused, which was frustrating.

She played a sport in HS but not in college. Her personality is  almost the opposite of the “Alpha College Athlete” type — she is introverted and bookish, and not gregarious at all.

In retrospect, I regret focusing so much on academics and wish I pushed her into team sports more so she could’ve developed the social skills and connections that are necessary for success.

I guess this is a warning to future  DCUM parents: please put more pressure on your kid socially than academically. There is so much talk about colleges and AAP and GPA and SAT scores in this forum, but not enough about helping your kid develop the social skills necessary for success. [/quote]

All this drivel because a 25 year old is making 70k? You are nuts. [/quote]

Yup. Terrible mother.[/quote]

My older sister graduated from Ivy and worked in a low paying career.  She and her DH lived in a terrible school pyramid because both of them are not making enough to be able to afford a home in a good school district.  I bought them a home in McLean so that their kids could attend Churchill/Cooper/Langley pyramid because I love my sister.  Money will not solve all of your problems but not having enough money will cause so many issues especially when you have children, and god forbid, they are SN kids.

OP is NOT a terrible mother.  She is looking out for her DD best interest as she should.[/quote]

She's absolutely a terrible mother. she's measuring her daughter's "success" at such an early age entirely by one metric: how much the daughter is currently earning per year. That is so dumb.

And as someone else pointed out, her kid would have had a better chance of getting those high paying jobs if OP had connections or had built up her own social capital. The kids OP is comparing her daughter to have been running in a different race since the beginning. And then she's going to make her daughter feel inferior? I call all of that bad parenting.[/quote]

I am the poster with the sister who graduated from Ivy.  Life has been so easy for me because I was a former D1 athlete at one of the P-5 schools and I received endless opportunities after graduation from my alma mater athletic department.  While my sister attended Ivy, she was not as fortunate as I was and didn't get many opportunities.  While much of that was her fault, it is what it is.  She is now having a lot of regrets but very grateful that I have so much financial resources to help her.  As I've already mentioned, life can be very difficult without having a lot of money, especially when you have kids.  I am sure most people here want to live in McLean/Langley/Potomac/Bethesda school districts and not Annandale or Falls Church.

That's why you see Asians, I am one, push their kids into STEM, law, or medicine because they know their children will, at least, make a very comfortable living after graduation.

Again, as I've already mentioned, OP is a caring mother who is looking out for her DD best interest, as she should.  I would do the same if I were in her shoes.  [/quote]

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