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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She deserves for you to take this seriously, imo. Not because of the one comment but the larger issue of lack of empathy. Whether it’s asd, sociopathy (not that rare) or just rigidity, she will need tools and trusted confidantes to have a happy life and relationships.

Don’t shame her or guilt her but ask her to talk to you about these things in private rather than with siblings. Kudos for asking the question, OP. I know parents who have one child seriously lacking in empathy and they’re in total denial. [/quote]

“Empathy” is a pretty subjective concept that is IMO not appropriately applied most often. People talk about it as if kids are supposed to be literal angels. All OP said is that the girl doesn’t like babies and said something designed to get attention about it. She plays well with siblings and friends. There is no “empathy” issue here.[/quote]

The first post is not indicated she plays well with young kids it's actually her younger siblings that do better with the cousins but she has absolutely nothing to do with them. 
Okay I'll be honest I think you're in denial that she doesn't have issues at school if she's this rigid and dismissive of people then she's having issues at school. She says weird things outlandish things super rigid. Does she have close friends? does she have more than a few friends? is she invited to things? More than that the absence of issues does not technically mean that there are no issues.  If she's not getting into fights and she's doing her school work then she's going to get no attention from teachers or the admin. This is technically why girls are underdiagnosed in a lot of different areas because unless they are actively creating problems then there are other issues for admin and teachers to deal with. 
You know your child outside of academic areas and you need to see the whole picture and not just that she's a good girl who gets good grades or that she's super smart. There is more to navigating the adult world than being smart. 
And for those of you insist that if this were a boy that wouldn't be an issue you have some severe gender issues if my son we're 11 years old and said that I would seriously be concerned. One they need to learn how to say that they don't like things without being insulting. And two she's 11 not quite in that tween shock statement era. And three she actually has behaviors that back up her statement so that makes it more concerning because it's not just a shock statement. Four at this age you would expect that yes they say shocking statements but to have no concern about the backlash from it societally is also concerning. 
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