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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I suggest you zoom out a bit. This is not just about sleeping arrangements for a few nights. Your DH is mistaken to think it's about that. Of course she can go a few nights without sleeping next to her boyfriend. But that's not what this is about.

What your DD is doing is drawing some lines. She's out of college, she has a job and a place to live and an adult partner, and it's not a coincidence that she's now choosing to emphasize that she's an adult and she's going to make her own choices. Logistical choices, personal choices, MORAL choices. Because she is an adult. If she's been catering to a controlling, conservative father all her life-- and you've been enabling him-- then this change has been a long time coming. She's going to go on and make other choices-- where to live and work, who to marry, whether to be religious, whether to have children, how to raise those children-- all of life's biggest decisions! And she's going to make them on her own, outside the control of her father.

He can stamp his feet and shout "My roof, my roof!" but that's only going to get him less time with his daughter. Or he can accept that she's an adult who makes choices (just like he's an adult who makes choices), and it's going to stay that way so he better start accepting it politely.[/quote]

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