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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know anyone in our family - and there are a lot of us - whose adult kids don’t want to live as close to their parents as they can.   All of our adult kids (four) live within a 20 minute drive, and two of the four are within walking distance.  Most kids of my brothers’ and sister’s kid live just as close to their parents too (in other cities), and the ones who don’t are sad that they can’t.

So many dysfunctional families on DCUM.  I wonder if it’s just a DMV regional thing. [/quote]

I think much of this can depend upon where the parents choose to raise their kids.  Both my and my wife's parents are actually from the greatest generation and it feels like they moved to where the job was located...qualify of life or their own personal preferences be damned.  Our childhoods were fine, but pretty darn un-exciting and we both went to college and never looked back.

Well, these are places where nobody ever visits voluntarily because they basically stink.  We get along perfectly fine with the parents, but literally will never again step foot in the places they reside once they move onto a higher calling.  There was no way we would live within a 20 minute drive, or even a 90 minute drive...because these are not dynamic, growing places (and you read about these places and others lamenting the brain drain).

We visit once or twice per year...though we do our best to also get together for a week per year at a vacation destination.[/quote]

Both DH and I are from remote, small towns and we don't live very close to either set of parents because it would be incredibly limiting in so many ways. I think when you choose to settle in a remote, unpopulated area, you should anticipate that at least some of your kids will move far away for career opportunity or just life opportunities.[/quote]

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