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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thank you all for helping me run over this scenario.

I have had people in my life experience catastrophic illness while being extremely healthy such as brain aneurysm driving home from work. Watching them heal thru therapies has really urged me to ensure I have a good plan as my family members who would be called are not financially fit by DCUM standards and would not be able to unexpectedly fly in if I am unable to access my account to provide those fundings.

I would worry too - is there any health implication or difficulty on returning a child to the parent if CPS temporarily places them in a foster home? Worries also as a minority mother. There are some quite awful scenarios that are well documented with CPS.

With the neighbor, of course things could be terrible as well if the person is an unknown abuser of some sort.

Thank you all though for your help. I come from an older family so thank you PP who raised age as a factor.

I’ll look more into those classmate schoolmate family possibilities. [/quote]

When a kid goes into emergency care, typically there has to be a hearing within 72 to 96 hours (depending on day of the week and the state) to formalize the emergency order, then it is reviewed (should be, depends on how stacked up the particular system in) within a few weeks, during which time CPS has to make efforts to locate relatives, etc. It generally takes a few months or more for this to turn into a longer term foster care order. And actually a review of custody can usually be requested at any time, at least technically. So just going into emergency care doesn't necessarily mean the kid is pulled into a foster care black hole, BUT during that time a lot of investigation is done by people who don't know the family or relatives personally, issues that people can usually keep under wraps may surface in ways you don't expect or misinterpreted, so there's definitely chances things can really go south even for affluent middle class families. [/quote]

New poster. It is also worth noting that a situation where the kids were placed into care because of a parent's medical event would be treated meaningfully differently by CPS than a situation where the kids were placed into care because of abuse allegations against the parent. In the latter situation, you would need to establish that you were a safe parent who had addressed whatever issues contributed to the abusive incident as well as whatever other CPS criteria need to be met in your jurisdiction. In the medical event situation, CPS would recognize that they were stepping in to provide bridge care for a family in crisis, determine the easiest way to make it happen, and then make it happen. Most people in the situation would be assumed to be credible rather than seen with suspicion.

I have a friend who had a medical event as a single parent in a community with very limited support. She was taken to the hospital when her son was in school. He returned from school to a locked house and no mom. He went to a neighbor's house to call his mom, which was successful eventually (she was admitted but stable at that point). Mom gave permission to the neighbor to babysit him overnight, which satisfied the hospital in the moment. By the next day, she was stable and her mom was able to fly in from out of town because the neighbor was not a long term solution. My friend was in the hospital for 3 days and ended up moving back to her hometown because she recognized that she just did not have the support she needed for an emergency. I dunno if I would've done that, but aftet her situation, I definitely worked to identify an emergency plan and talked about it with my kids. [/quote]

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