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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$0
10 year marriage 
The reason does not matter (no fault)
There are spousal support calculators in Va or ask an attorney (it is math)
If I left when I wanted when I was not working, it would have been $3,000 a month; I went back to work though and then it was $0. It was math 
He earns double my salary 
Kids would have suffered financially if he had to pay me alimony. They did not if I went back to work—so that is what I did 
Most divorces do not go to court (only 5%); alimony is math but can be worked out differently in the agreement in mediation or with attorneys [/quote]

Are you guys civil toward each other? This is an interesting arrangement  to me because it seems really ideal. I’m a stay at home mom and if I got divorced I would want something like this. How do you feel about it? [/quote]

I am not quite sure what you are asking. Yes, we are civil. We would be civil no matter what--we have kids. I do not understand how people with kids who are divorced are okay with NOT being civil. I got $0 in alimony but I went back to work like I said. That was in the best financial interest for me long-term anyway. Our kids will not suffer. He kept the house. He could not have kept the house and pay me alimony. It was more important to me that we retain as much wealth for the kids as possible. I could not afford the mortgage by myself. He could have afforded a smaller house but then that effects the kids...it did not make sense to pay me alimony and have us both living in much smaller properties as a result. It made more sense for one of us (the one with more income) to retain the house and the other to get a smaller property. I feel like the divorce had to be done. I don't really feel anything about it. Yes, I am annoyed I put all the down payment in the house from my savings but I could have have afforded to keep it in a divorce because I could not pay the mortgage. I did get some money, of course, but it annoys me more that we bought the house to begin with because you never get all of that back even if you are the one who earned it to put in. We are civil. I feel like we did the best thing for the kids. I am actually proud of us for managing to divorce without it having much impact on them financially at all. Most divorcing couples can't do that. We still save the same for their college. My kids' lifestyle is the same. Mine is less. But I could not stay married (it was never good, empty and felt like a show. No nice house is worth the emotional emptiness of being in a bad marriage.)[/quote]

You sound like me PP. I went back to work, kids will be okay, I just want to make sure I’m set so not a burden on them.[/quote]

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