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[quote=Anonymous]Oh gosh I’m sorry. Do you think it’s the money or the inconvenience that is holding him up? We have young kids and have needed/wanted to remodel the kitchen for a while now. The cabinets have literally fallen apart in a couple places. We are both dreading living through a remodel with out a functional kitchen. My husband wants to move out and I’m dreading the extra work that will make for me ( at the end of the day packing up the stuff we need for months and any extra driving from a less convenient location will largely fall to me). But I am probably going to agree to it because I am embarrassed to live in a space that is falling apart and I want my kids to be able to have friends over with out feeling self conscious).

Anyway that was a bit of an aside but I feel like what works is to make things easy/concrete.

I would give him three options:
1.  design and build firm (get a quote, it’s easy to do) and move out during renovations (easiest and most expensive)
2. Cheaper contractor and you live through it (less expensive but more annoying and more work)
3. Marriage counseling to come up with another option.

I would commit to no other renovations for 5 years (unless something breaks). Make it clear this is the one you care about and the hill you will die on. And that you will do the work to make it happen. 
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