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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A big issue i have noticed is parents not wanting their kids to be poor and giving them $$ so they can keep the lifestyle they had growing up with clothes, entertainment, restaurants, travel etc.

It is a slipperly slope even if you have the money. I say it builds character to live in a basement apartment and need to budget your money for ramen etc. [/quote]
agree.  When do you stop paying for them so that they can have certain lifestyle?  30, 40, 50?

Of course, it's agonizing to watch your kids suffer or make bad choices. But, they have to learn from their mistakes at some point. You teach them all throughout their lives from 0 to 18 life lessons and about choices and consequences.  At some point, you have to let them learn from their choices.

What are your adult kids doing to find a better paying job?

I think it's one thing if your adult kids are trying to figure things out, have a plan (working their way up at a lower level job, going back to school, getting a certification, etc.) , but if they are just cruising at a PT job, and expecting parents to help fund their "independent" lifestyle, then that's another thing.

I live an umc lifestyle now, and my kids don't know what it's like to be poor and struggle like I did.  I have drilled into them that they need to be able to get a job that pays the bills.  One of my DCs loves the arts, but they know that the vast majority of artists struggle.  DC likes their comfortable lifestyle, and we have been candid about how much it costs to live such a lifestyle.[/quote]

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