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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She lied because she felt she had to. Ask yourself why that is. [/quote]

Why can’t MIL follow a very simple schedule?[/quote]
Grandparents will do whatever tf they want. They think your routines, food choices and rules are ridiculous. Even your mom thinks that, op.[/quote]

NP. That’s absolutely fine. They can be visitors, then, and not caregivers. It is 100% fine if they just want to visit and have fun, and not babysit. If they want to babysit, they will follow the rules.[/quote]
You realize babysitting is a privilege for you, right? They are doing you a favor, not the other way around.[/quote]

No, actually. Someone who is caring for my kid, and lying about how they do it (esp when it is contrary to the child's parents' wishes) is not doing me any favors whatsoever. If I cannot trust you to do as I ask, and I -know- you're lying about it, then not only is it NOT a favor. You're burdening me further by having to make sure you're telling me the truthing, doing as I ask, by causing me to worry.

So, no thank you. [/quote]

If you want everything done to your exact standards, hire someone. Family members muddle along as best they can, but they're not going to quake in their boots if the kid doesn't go down exactly on time, or eats a couple of cookies. I would never have looked after my nieces and nephew if my SIL treated me like the hired help. [/quote]
Did you read that OP didn’t ask her? If you push your way in to watching someone’s kids, be helpful! Don’t insist on watching them and lying.[/quote]

OP could have refused to go. She wasn’t forced out of her home by gunpoint.

Sounds to me like she could have used the vacation to relax about life. [/quote]

My antenna would have been way up with anybody who tried to separate me from my 18 month old.  I would have told MIL sorry, we can’t go to Great Wolf today.  You’d think people would know if they want access to your kid, they better make the mom feel like they are trustworthy and responsible.  MIL didn’t go that route, she tried manipulation instead.[/quote]

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