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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of the same basics as a girl.

Things that are specific to boys:

Toxic masculinity

Pervasive homophobia.  The messaging to them is subtly all over the place really as early as K.

When they're older, how to interact with and treat with women.  Consent.  How to interact online.  Huge topics.  I have told my son you're not getting any grace in this world.  Because men got away with so much BS for so long and still do in many ways, you will not be given the benefit of the doubt.  If a girl says you did something, you're done.  There is no room for mistakes for boys in this department (nor should there be).[/quote]

There is no such thing as toxic masculinity.

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DP but we must live on different planets. You’ve never experienced toxic masculinity?? 
Teen girls these days can sniff it out and won’t put up with it. I’m raising teen boys and girls and can tell you these girls are going to run circles around the boys of their generation. I’m raising my boys to keep up with the girls. If I want them married (and I do!), I know they’re going to have to bring something to the table. Manners, common sense, the end of weaponized helplessness, conversation skills (and all the things women of our generation looked for- ambition, smarts, kindness etc). [/quote]

I don’t. Masculinity isn’t toxic. We need to stop teaching little boys this. We need to stop trying to feminize boys. [/quote]

Correct masculinity is not toxic in and of itself but there is toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is the perpetuation of dominance, unchecked aggression, homophobia, affection can only be obtained in sexual relationships, lack of empathy, isolation, refusing to seek out doctors- both for physical and mental ailments, etc.

Masculinity, without toxicity, would be the ideal of duty, honor, pride of excellence and in taking care of others, devotion, etc. Toxic masculinity is the toxic side of all of those characteristics. Taken to extremes and isolating.

An example would be following rules but not cultural/societal gatekeeping. Opening doors in both the literal and metaphorical sense. Willing to be a mentor to both women and men in the workforce. Being openly affectionate with their spouse, parents, children and friends. Recognizing the role of an adult is to provide for themselves- and others if they have a family- but that it is not their sole product and reason for existing. Willing to learn. Willing to teach. Steadfast without the sinking ship conundrum.

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