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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you want to travel to some poor country and pay an impoverished woman to get pregnant and carry your child? That seems ethical to you?[/quote]

Bet you pay impoverished women to produce your adorbz housewares and clothing all the time. Hypocrite. [/quote]
You think producing clothing is the same effect on a body as carrying a child? Are you a man or something? No way a woman would compare these two. [/quote]

Speak for yourself. I’m a woman and I’d much rather get [b]well paid[/b] for being pregnant again than work for less than minimum wage in a factory. [/quote]
How do we determine what is well paid to carry a pregnancy and birth a child?

OP is trying to cut corners and pay as little as possible by going to a poor country. How much is a bio child worth? [/quote]

A biological child is priceless to me. I am thankful that fertility was a nonissue for me, but I know I would never adopt. DH has an adopted sister who has been nothing but a heartache for his family. She was adopted as a baby. She was treated with love and kindness, but became a nightmare in high school and it has never stopped. She is mentally ill, most likely inherited, and has repeated problems with drug abuse and the law and with running away. My in laws have done everything imaginable for her, but it’s useless. Sure, this can happen with a biological child, but it’s different when it does. My in laws feel burdened in a way that wouldn’t with a biological child.

OP isn’t trying to cut corners as you say. She says she has around $50,000 to $70,000 to spend on a surrogate. She is seeking to find one in a country where that is a lot more money than $200,000 is in the US. Do you know what kind of a difference $20,000, let alone $50,000 would make to a poor woman in India. It’s a shame this was outlawed there. The rich people in that country really do not care about the poor ones and will do anything to keep them down, under the guise of “protecting” them.

Do not pay attention to these trolls, OP! Good luck to you!!! [/quote]
Youre probably (precisely) right that the rich in those countries dont care about the poor, and especially the poor women. But purposely seeking out a poor country to leverage your $ against someone elses body is gross. I don't love the idea of going to a poor country and waving your money around, looking to exploit someone. Basically buying a slave for 10 months (at least). Going to a poor country also means its more likely that the surrogate has less protections, may not be aware of any legal issues, etc. Much easier to take advantage of a poor impoverished woman from a developing nation rather than pay an appropriate market price for her body. Whatever that price is supposed to be. [/quote]

A surrogate isn’t a slave. It’s offensive for you to equate the two. It’s not like anyone is kidnapped and forced to carry other people’s kids. It’s a CHOICE for the surrogates. No one is waving money around. OP doesn’t have $200,000. She has half that. That’s a lot of money for someone in most countries outside of the US, Canada, Israel, Europe, Australia, New Zealand and Japan. It actually comes out to much more money for the surrogate.

Why are you deciding for other women how they can make money? I, for one, loved being pregnant. I would happily do it for money, especially if I needed some, but I’m in my late 40s and think that I’d be pushing it at this stage. I wouldn’t consider it selling my body. I’d consider it helping someone out and getting paid for it as a huge bonus.

Why is your opinion the only one that counts? Are you imagining yourself as Judge Judy?
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