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[quote=Anonymous]It is important to understand that this type of person is very arrogant and delusional because they truly believe they are doing you a favor by living there.  Like of course because they sweep a floor once a week, they get to live in your home without even asking.  Therefore, you have to be tough and strong.

This is my advice:
1.  Tell your husband: I don’t want to live with your mother.  You can talk to her about when she will be leaving or i will.  Keep repeating as necessary.  You will feel uncomfortable. Feel that emotion but continue repeating the sentences. Practice self care afterwards.

2.  Remove all items she has put up on the walls and on the counter.  Say the following: I need a clutter free home to feel at peace. Thank you for understanding.

3.  Be unpleasant. This will be out of your comfort zone but this is how this has to be. This is a serious situation and should be treated as such.

4. If there are any yelling or fits, say, “I need a peaceful household for my health and well being. Your visit needs to come to an end.”  Walk away and care for yourself.

For your husband, it might be helpful to phrase it like this, “We would never just move in with (name of your child).  Right?  Families need their own space.”

You are asking internet strangers if you are a jerk?  Did you just move into someone house and redecorate it?  There is only one jerk in this story.

Good luck and be strong.[/quote]

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