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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I absolutely agree that all genders need to be taught about consent however please do not forget that there is a talk to be had with girls too. They are still both dealing with hormones, and attraction as well as societal shame and expectations and remorse or embarrassment or teasing. And remember these kids are 12, a three paragraph boilerplate legal essay will not mean anything to them. 
The best way to talk about consent is to talk and act out what is consent? Appropriately, not creepily obviously. 
What does it means to say maybe but kiss enthusiastically anyway. What message is being sent and who is responsible? 
If a girl does this, what should a boy do?
If you are a girl, is this ok, responsible, etc. 
Can you say yes and then withdraw consent? Yes for future activity. No for past activity. This is at the root of many misunderstandings. 
Are you kissing someone linked to another girl who will be mad. 
I bring all this up because social media has changed everything for these kids. Girls get jealous and brand other girls as evil or man stealers. Girls are embarrassed that they kissed someone and think they can withdraw consent later and brand the guy as a predator, even when consent was achieved, especially if the girl said no, then came back and said yes. This is not only happening because a guy pressures a girl. Sometimes the girl honestly doesn’t know right away. These kids are young and curious.

My point is everyone needs to understand the subtle sides of consent. Not just the guys.

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Maybe, but the key emphasis must still be:  CONSENT.  It has to be clear.  It has to be concise.  It has to happen every. Single. Time.

This is what matters most in teaching this.[/quote]

OK - I get it.

But OP’s child is only 12, still a child, and a minor.

Would it be better for OP to reach out to the girl’s parents to discuss (and hopefully obtain) consent on her son’s behalf? [/quote]

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