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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an fyi, in most US states, if you have a public ceremony and are married by an officiant, you’re considered legally married, even if a marriage license was never filed. I know this from personally experience (and have the divorce papers to prove it).[/quote]

Would you please provide the legal citations to support this assertion? It sounds absurd to me.

In fact, in many US jurisdictions an officiant who performs a marriage ceremony without a marriage license present is committing a misdemeanor crime, so I think you are full of it.

But I’m willing to give you the opportunity to provide evidence to support your assertion that any couple who engages in a ceremony and has an officiant declare them married is in fact legally married. [/quote]

Who are you to ask me to provide you with anything? I wish I were making this up.  It’s a fact. It happened to me. I was dumb and obnoxious like you and didn’t believe it was possible for me to be married because no license was filed with the state. I’d even asked my bff who thinks she’s a hot shot lawyer because she went to Cornell and works in BigLaw. She assured me, very confidently, that I wasn’t married. But just after I got engaged again, I double checked with a real family lawyer in the state. And then got a second opinion. Thank god I did, because otherwise I would have been guilty of polygamy.

Maybe you don’t know everything?[/quote]

Maybe you’re more than a little defensive and should calm down? NP.[/quote]

You know what, I am defensive. I had to spend close to $30,000 and over a year to get divorced to someone I didn’t think I was married to because of idiots dispensing legal advice on topics they know nothing about. I’m lucky I didn’t commit polygamy. I was just trying to educate people on the reality and then some overconfident dumbass demands I provide citations, instead of maybe acknowledging he or she doesn’t know everything. How would you feel about it, if it were you? Yes, I’m still sore about it.[/quote]

I have practiced family law in three different states and I find your assertion absurd as well.

And if you’re holding yourself out as a legal expert based on your experience, you should know that in the world of the law the party making an assertion provides the evidence to support it.

YOU have asserted yourself as an authority and FYI’d the board that any couple who ‘marries’ in a ceremony with an officiant is legally married regardless of the existence of a marriage license registered with the relevant authorities in whichever jurisdiction.

Provide the legal citations please. Tell us which jurisdiction this happened to you in, at least. You must have access to the dissolution information and the relevant statutes which governed your unfortunate situation?

I suspect you’ll just come back with more barking.[/quote]

Okay, hotshot. It was in Florida. We did have a license for the ceremony, but it was never filed. I called the county clerk first to check if it was filed and she said there was no record of a marriage. I said, “Phew, we’re not married.” And the simple county clerk, not a fancy family lawyer with a license in three states, said, “Sweetie, that doesn’t mean you’re not married. Dear, you need to call a lawyer.”

I did. I called three. They all said I was married. I didn’t ask them for freaking citations. I just wanted to get divorced ASAP and marry my fiancé. It took a year and $30,000.

Again, I say maybe you don’t know as much as you think you know. I suspect you’ll come back barking, too, because lawyers are such freaking know it alls and can never admit they are wrong about anything.

Why don’t you do some research befote you spout off nonsense.[/quote]

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