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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's secretly panicking about the baby and that causes him paralysis.

If you haven't tasked him with specific things very clearly, do it now. "Joe. Make her vaccination appointment. It is your job and I need you to get it done." [/quote]

He’s not thinking a damn thing. Except about himself.

He gosh darn went and got married and made kids but never adapts or grows or steps up for the new adult situation.

Who cares why? He cannot or will not behave like an adult spouse or parent or home owner.

Absolutely get therapy and start getting him aware of normal expectations. He needs to grow up and step up.

But if instead he gets angry and mad at you, buckle up…. You also may have married a bonafide A-hole whose mommy raised him to do nothing and to believe he’s better than everyone else. Especially women. [/quote]

yes, mine got angry when approached about this problem (or any problem actually).    It's destroyed our marriage.   He has a job, and manages to keep that and do well, but he has left EVERYTHING else up to me.  I'm an idiot for tolerating it for this long.   I have to manage literally everything and WITH my own ADHD, but I have to do it so I do.   I hate the ADHD excuse....I keep lists and schedules and notes and reminders, and I know there is no one to catch me when I fall so I get it done.     I feel like I married a 14 year old boy that still needs his mommy when it's time to buy new underwear or who has to make phone calls for him.   It isn't anything like I thought being married would be like lol.   I'm alone in all of it, and that makes me angry when he's sitting right there and chooses not to participate in our life or our children's lives
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