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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two things jump out at me:

"We see each other non-stop"
Your child should come first. What is your child doing while you're hanging out with your bf?

"his finances are in flux" 
Stay the he** away from any commitment that involves finances, like sharing a home. Being a single mother already puts you in a precarious financial situation. Also, by 47, most people should be financially stable so this is a big red flag for me because it suggests deeper issues with him.  [/quote]

OP here. Thanks everyone for your feedback. I am going to end things.

With respect to my son, I haven't seen signs that he struggles with that. He initiatives doing family friendly activities with my son on a regular basis and seems to really enjoy it. He is very hands on in this area.

He is not financially irresponsible. He owns his own business and had a bad year. We have walked through his finances and I consider them to be in a good spot, but he is more financially conservative than me and has been putting all this pressure on himself about how much he should be able to provide in the future.[/quote]

I’m going to take a more positive view than others here. 
You’re sexually exclusive, seeing each other all the time, you’ve met each other’s families, he’s been there for you, and he’s even gone over his finances with you. I don’t think he’s hiding something or “not into you”. I think you’re a couple, and in his mind the next step is something like moving in together or marrying, and he feels that he’s not currently stable enough to provide for you. He probably thinks it’s all fine because you’re happy, and there’s no rush because you’re both older, doesn’t realize that you need more reassurance. If everything is as great as you say, you should be able to sit him down and talk about this. [/quote]

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