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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD is at a private college and my DS will be attending an in-state public.

If he also was attending a private we would had have to stop funding our retirement for the duration of his education, but now we don’t :)

If any of you are/were in a similar position, how did you feel about the “fairness”? Did you even address it? fwiw DD is taking $3500 subsidized loans annually and DS doesn’t have to take out any loans, which he will know.
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When it was time for me to go to college, I got into the an expensive college my older sister went to, and my parents told me that they couldn't afford to send both of us.  They said that since I was a much less dedicated student (true) that they wouldn't go into a lot debt to send me to an expensive college and that I needed to aim at cheaper colleges.   I suppose I could have been bitter about it, but I understood their reasoning. [/quote]

Long time ago, in a family I knew, they sent their oldest son to Harvard, and as you would expect Harvard completely broke the bank, draining the family of every last available cent. His two younger sisters had to attend less expensive, less prestigious schools. Yeah, they did OK in their careers but they didn't get to go to Harvard. Wouldn't surprise me if they were bitter. Worst of all, the Harvard alum did not do anything spectacular with his life.[/quote]

I would resent that, especially if there was some misogyny involved (and that sounds possible here).

One of mine went to an extremely good public school, while another went private with merit and financial aid. Private was only slightly more expensive, so we evened things out by helping the public school kid with grad school. Now, of course, the private school kid is also going to grad school, and we feel obligated to help. We got the public school kid a nicer, more expensive car, so I think we've spent almost exactly the same on each now. Thankfully, neither feels they were treated unfairly, and public school kid (who makes a lot of money) is even offering to help support private school kid through grad school, while the latter is filled with gratitude but doesn't want to impose on a sibling. I love my kids! So proud of both! [/quote]

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