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[quote=Anonymous]Ok, feel free to hate me, PP.  Most Americans are raised this way and it is a journey to undo internalized cultural norms.  My husband grew up in a very poor family and has always wanted to over buy for our kids because he felt deprived as a child/couldn't have what he wanted.  So we had internalized bad values from both directions.  Also came from a couple of other directions.  I have early childhood educators on the middle class side of my family and they just love toys.  Love them as much as some people love major league sports. So reining them in was pretty difficult.  Another issue we had going on was gendered...we had all girls in my generation and all boys in the grandkid generation.  Shopping for gifts, toys, and holiday gear is a fairly gendered pastime.  As women, we were trained to enjoy this stuff, expected to do it, and praised for doing it well.  So that's a whole other aspect of things that feeds in here.

I had forgotten about these forums for about 10 years and just dropped in excited to share because there are way more parents here than I normally encounter.  Not trying to teach, just explain what I did with my family and how it worked out.  But now I'm remembering that this board had quite the reputation for toxicity back in the day.

Anyway, apologies if I annoyed anyone with my privilege - that wasn't my intent - still hope there's a valuable tip or two in there for someone.  I like reading others' POV's even when I have to roll my eyes a little.  I'd appreciate it if you extended me the same courtesy.[/quote]

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