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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Frankly just cut ties with the whole lot and try to find others to hang out with. The fact that they worship someone who treats you like that in front of them says a lot.  [/quote]

+1. Likely one of the reasons they think she is "amazing" is that she does crap like this -- rejects some people in order to protect her position and access to others. People will claim they hate this but most people are insecure and selfish. It makes them feel special.

That's why these dynamics happen. People like feeling chosen. So a woman like this can pick her people, make them feel like a million dollars, and then showily exclude others, and that feeling of being on the inside of her circle will be good enough to make them overlook it. Clever people are good at strategizing who gets in and who gets out, so as to never piss off anyone high status enough to actually threaten their position.

It suuuuuuuucks being on the outside though, it's a very uncomfortable, unpleasant feeling even when you have a good head on your shoulders and decent self esteem. Rejection always hurts, but this particularly brand of rejection feels like being pushed to the edge of the gazelle herd in the way of the lion, for some reason.

In fact, my theory is that the women who organize these groups are generally smarting from being pushed out by someone else in the past. It's traumatizing, so they adopt the attitude of "kill or be killed" and make sure next time they are the ones deciding who's in or out. This theory is backed up by knowledge of several such "mean girl" adults who I happened to know as adolescents or in college, when each of them was shy, vulnerable, and in some cases got teased or harassed for their appearance (a little pudge they lost as an adult, bad teenage acne, an embarrassing lack of style, etc.). It's like a villains origin story.[/quote]

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