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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, all of this redshirting everywhere has gotten out of hand. It’s crazy to me that OP has zero concerns about kindergarten readiness but is considering holding her daughter back since she feels as though sending her on time as one of the youngest may, at some future point, make her have some unknown discomfort or adversity not otherwise specified, and she’d rather put her at an advantage over the other children as the oldest. That is, in my opinion, quite weak-sauce and we’ve lost sight of accommodating true outlier kids who are not ready and are instead accommodating anxious parents trying to game-ify their not-struggling children’s successes over others. The fact that OP even feels like she has an existential decision to make is silly to me. The default should be send on time unless there is a compelling reason not to. I’m not seeing one here. [/quote]

OP here. It is out of hand, but partially so because there are no uniform dates across the country. [b]I don’t want my child going to college at 17 with kids who have just turned 19 or are about to. There’s a big difference.[/b] I also know what’s expected of kids in kindergarten now and I just don’t feel it’s developmentally appropriate for a 4 year old. 2/3 of the kids in her class would be turning 6 by March. I don’t care about putting her at an advantage as much as I don’t want her to be at disadvantage. I never said it’s an existential decision, but this is a parenting forum. If we can talk about what to serve at a birthday party I can certainly ask other parents for their experiences on their daughters being the very youngest vs close to the oldest of their grade.

Fwiw I have a March birthday and was on the older side of my grade. In hindsight many of the girls I knew with late fall birthdays were immature and really could not keep up socially. But I was also fairly tall until middle school and that was a little awkward for me. I’m average build- not a tiny petite person and doubt my daughter will be either, so that is also a consideration, however asinine you may find it.[/quote]

This sort of difference is going to happen regardless though with people going to college from all areas of the country and to different setups at each school.  I went at 17 as I was a late fall birthday and it was perfectly fine.  I was actually the only freshman who lived on my floor in my dorm.  Another of the floors in my dorm was for "non-traditional" students, students older than 23 years old.  My parents could have never foreseen at kindergarten age that I'd end up at a college with this arrangement.  There are too many variables to plan for.  Just send her to kindergarten and if when she's 17 it's too soon for college you deal with that problem then and suggest a gap year or something. Don't plan for a possible problem 12 years in advance. [/quote]

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