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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Usually DH and I have Thanksgiving at my mom’s house and we make it a Thanksgiving/birthday celebration since her birthday is around Thanksgiving. However, we had a baby last month and decided we would have dinner at our house. We let my mom know and she was on board with the idea. However, my dad told me that he and my stepmom would be in town for Thanksgiving and they want to meet their new grandchild. My parents don’t get along at all. I asked my mom if it would be okay for them to come to dinner. She told me to uninvite them as she refuses to spend Thanksgiving and her birthday (it’s on Thanksgiving this year) with them. She told me if they come, she won’t come. I don’t want my mom to be alone. I’m torn on what to do. I just wish they could be adults for one day…[/quote]

Op, you're a mom now.  You're an adult.  Being an adult means you act like one.  You invited your mom first but you also invited your dad or at least agreed he could come on Thanksgiving when he suggested it.

Your Mom is being petulant and selfish.   She is forcing you to choose her over your Dad by using blatant emotional blackmail.

It's time you trained her to stop behaving that way with you, and trained yourself to act like a grown up.

If she's alone on Thanksgiving that's her own choice, no?  She's the type who will cut off her nose to spite her face.

Let her stew in her own soup if bitterness.[/quote]

Mommy issues?[/quote]

Definitely. Talk about projecting![/quote]

Many women engage in emotional blackmail just like ops mommy.  If you think emotional blackmail is ok you're the one with issues.[/quote]

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