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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m with you OP. Halloween is by far my least favorite holiday because of the social stress. My oldest is with his dad every other year on Halloween (and every other weekend), plus he plays a travel sport outside of the community, so he gets forgotten in Halloween. [b]My younger kids have a great time with a solid friend group and we’re close with their parents’ friends,[/b] but I feel terrible about how Halloween went down for my older kid this year.  I think he’s aging out of trick or treating (7th grade) or at least almost to a point where it’ll be kids organizing it rather than parents.  [/quote]

I think this is the biggest factor in whether Halloween is fun or not. I didn't have a solid friend group when  I was a kid so Halloween was stressful and I was happy to outgrow it. Fortunately, my kids both have great friend groups in our neighborhood and we have a great ToT neighborhood so I was surprised at how fun it is. As DD's gotten older and loves crafting elaborate costumes the only downside is that she gets stressed out about finishing her creation on time.[/quote]

Our neighborhood has 1 acre plus lots and is hilly, so kids or their parents have to arrange ToT with friend groups in nearby neighborhoods, which I think contributes to why I dislike Halloween as it relates to my tween.  He is generally a social kid and gets invited to birthday parties and other things, but he had no one this year to ToT with and just had to follow around with our group of much younger kids.  I feel like a failure as a parent for not figuring it out for him, but he's in that in-between stage right now where it's not clear to me when I should get involved in social planning versus letting it work itself out among the kids.  I am an introvert, and arranging social things is the hardest part of parenting for me, especially for his peer group.  It made me think we've failed him by focusing so much on sports so far outside of the community rather than just staying local and building friendships. Maybe having a wholesome social life is more important than chasing success in a sport.  [/quote]

So much self-inflicted angst.  Maybe your kid is completely fine and just didn't have anyone to ToT with this year and then had a good time with the younger kids. It doesn't have to be such a big deal.  [/quote]

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