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[quote=Anonymous]OP states she wants three things: (1) baby (2) Not be lower middle class (3) Single Family Home.

You can have a baby while living in an apartment and while being "lower middle class." You can also have birthday parties for your child in an apartment while being lower-middle class.
If what you want is truly "emotional connection" that can also be done in an apartment while being lower middle class.

My guess is that you are nagging about some Instagram lifestyle you feel that you deserve and ruminating on "I'm not happy." 
You, most likely think, "if I has X, Y, and Z THEN I'll FEEL happy" but the truth is that whatever X, Y, and Z is will never "make" you happy.
You are going to ruin you marriage (if you haven't already) by doing the things you are doing.

The truth is that it is not your husbands job to make you happy (even though most men try) and men often emotionally shut down when they have ungrateful wives.
The reason is that most men are energized by doing things that result in a happy wife but they become demoralized when try as they might, their wife doesn't find their offerings sufficient.
If this sort of thing is what your family has been telling you, they are not gaslighting you. Rather they are loving you enough to speak truth.

You need to honestly assess if your husband is basically a good man and whether you are acting spoiled.

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